Curiosity Killed the Business
Could you imagine a medical
professional saying to a person with HIV/AIDS, “You scare me so I would rather
not treat you”? What about telling a person with disabilities that they are a
“bother” and take up too much time?
You wouldn’t think that it
could happen, but even if such things are not said out loud, only thought about,
the care and treatment of the patient is compromised.
I recently gave a presentation
about the work PULSE of NY does with community groups and vulnerable
populations. I finished with a brief discussion about patient safety and my
work with a variety of populations — one being patients who are transgender. As
I was walking away, a man stopped me and wanted to have a private conversation.
“What do we call these people?” he asked me. I stopped to think about this
question and the words he used: “these people.” I know that if I were
transgender, the hair would stand up on my neck. Instead I sat down with him,
gave him my biggest smile and said, “I’m so glad you asked. I just wish you had
asked earlier so everyone could hear the answer.”
I asked who he was, because
earlier when I was with senior leadership I got the impression there wasn’t much
interest in this topic, but now he was asking a very basic question. He was
calling them “people,” and although it seemed a bit cold, his intentions were
good. It seems he was the head of the
transportation team in this large community hospital and he explained that he conveys
plenty of people who are transgender — people whose names don’t match their
looks. He was grateful for my response and was taking notes. I was grateful
that he cared enough to ask. But would he ask someone who is transgender?
Years ago when teaching a gathering
of senior leadership in a small hospital about working with people with various
physical disabilities, a nurse in charge said, “They take up so much time.” As
an advocate for this community I had to catch my breath. I thanked her for her
comments. “Now,” I said to the group, “what can be done to fix this?”
When we don’t acknowledge the
hidden feelings, the stigmas or our fears of the unknown, it puts a burden on
the people entrusted with the job of caring for people they don’t know enough
about.
Not all patients are ideal
patients. Some have many questions, some come to the hospital after a bad
experience. Some patients will take extra time for a variety of reasons. This
often can’t be helped. Allowing staff to explore their feelings about unwed
mothers, people addicted to or dependent on pain medications, people with
disabilities or people who are transgender is important to making a fully
rounded medical team. Some medical professionals will say, “I really don’t
care: a person is a person.” Wouldn’t it be great if they all did?